As a small business coach I read, listen and watch a lot! Recently I was watching the amazing documentary about Hillary Clinton, I was interested in the woman and the story not interested in the politics.
As a 50+ business woman and small business coach I love learning about inspirational women who’ve worked hard, earned their place and who are supremely qualified in what they do.
Anyway, back to Hillary – she was talking about some making false promises to secure the vote. She talked about having the Responsibility Gene and it caught my interest. I rewound the segment over and over again – I was hooked and curious.
How do you know if you have the Responsibility Gene?
Well it’s likely you have integrity, you’re trustworthy and you’re reliable. Do any of the following points resonate with you?
- Do what you say and say what you do.
- Don’t like to say something that is not true.
- Don’t overcommit and commit to do something that you cannot do, instead under promise and over deliver every single day.
I loved the Gene Responsibility in Psychology Today.
It’s often reported that we should take 100% responsibility for our outcomes – our life and our business. Why?
The implication is if we are not ”in control” then we are not in control, and if we’re not in control then we could become victim to whatever comes our way and done to!
It still drives me to distraction when someone says “they made me feel like….”
OMG! We are not school children, blaming others for our actions!
Taking responsibility puts you in charge and it enables you to choose how to respond to the change and challenges you encounter.
Most of all, taking 100% responsibility gives you choice – choice on how you choose to respond.
There’s a great saying:
So, it pays to take responsibility for your life, your business and your outcomes. Do you agree?
Let’s explore 7 ways how this looks in everyday life including your business.
1. Take responsibility for everything you say, think and do.
Take responsibility for your life and your business. Remember, the actions you take, are taken by you, because of how you think and how you choose to react.
What this means is that nobody can make you think, feel, say or do anything. Therefore, no one can push your buttons, unless you let them.
2. Stop blaming others.
Where you live, the job you have, the partner you have, the happiness you feel is down to you.
Stop blaming your partner, parents, economy, your upbringing or your boss for your state. Blaming others keeps you in a victim mode and can hinder you from taking action and changing your situation.
So stop blaming and accept responsibility, you shift being done to, to being in control.
Now you can look at the situation and decide what to do about it.
3. Stop complaining.
As a result of complaining, you’ll find it’s another form of blaming and playing victim as if you have no choice. It also shows that you focus on the lack, things that go wrong, negative things happening to you and you are behaving in a negative mindset.
Stop complaining and start celebrating your micro wins. Every single small win and check in to see what that does to your motivation and your mindset. Let’s develop your thinking from glass half empty to your glass brimming over!
4. Stop comparing
This is a biggie – you’ll never ever be comparing the same – it’s never apples and apples!
Assuming that everything is about you. Taking any form of disagreement as a personal attack. Remember, it’s not your business what anyone thinks of you. Similaraly you don’t have control over how other people respond, you only have control over how you respond.
It’s really not about you!
Start refusing to take anything personally. It’s most likely not to be about you, but something completely unrelated. Similarly, instead of making assumptions, before jumping to the wrong conclusion, take a breath and start seeking to understand by asking questions. Seek first to understand!
5. Look forward with excitement & anticipation
Life is now. There is only one moment, now. There’s a say “The past is history, the future is a mystery, so there is only now, this moment.”
Take responsibility for this moment and make the best of it to redeem the past and create the future you want. Paulo Coelho wrote something to this effect in his biography.
Be the gatekeeper of your thoughts and refuse to have a rerun of the same 60000 thoughts of yesterday if they do not get you want you want in life.
In summary choose your thoughts carefully in every moment and when you become present you have the awareness of what you are thinking and feeling. This will then enable you to interrupt thoughts that do not serve you. Deliberately change them in the moment to what you want to create in that moment to shape your future.
Ask yourself, “Am I in the present moment and what do I want?”
6. Do what you say and say what you do
Be the person who is reliable – be that person. Under promise & over deliver – always. Full Stop!
Give it time, don’t be in such a hurry to respond, waiting for a chance to interrupt and voice your opinion. Be measured, be responsible.
7. What does your day look like?
A crucial way to take responsibility for your life is with effective daily habits that will help you maximise your outputs and maintain the balance of work and home.
As a small business coach I work with business owners and we always look at their daily routines, their habits and success criteria. You are, after all what you consistently do.
Looking after yourself and your business are critical for your business success. You are what you continually do, so building healthy habits to enable high performance outputs is critical.
Take care of your needs – your body, your mind, and your business needs with the help of daily healthy business habits.
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